Domestic Violence in 30 Minutes or less

With Ray Rice and his spouse headlining the sports and national news circuit this last week I thought it be best to support a viewpoint and article that I believe in. Most regretfully due to the amount of support I’ve seen for Ray from a surprisingly large faction of Facebook “friends”. I can’t come to terms with a single opinion of theirs on the issue.

A few things:
*There should be zero tolerance for domestic violence, EVERYWHERE and ANYWHERE.? Charges should not be up to the spouse, that makes absolutely no sense. Force the charges and the SPOUSE will not feel as trapped having to make a choice.
*Any comparison of Ray to any other criminal, other than one who was caught on video tape knocking out their spouse or significant other, is outrageous and inconsistent. Ray should not be held to any other standard of criminal charges except for the crime he committed.
*The NFL and Raven’s Organization have handled this in the most INEPT manner. Whatever the outcome – I believe they should be charged and should be required to support a United Front against Domestic Violence. After all, the NFL is an entirely MALE DOMINATED sport, with the MAJORITY of positions being held by MEN. Cheerleaders exist, but what women hold position of responsibility and regard within the NFL and NFL teams? I’m serious, you tell me because I can’t think of one that has any say in team activities other than maybe the influence of owners spouses (interestingly enough).
*I hope Ray bounces back and I believe he deserves a second chance. I believe in rehabilitation. I pray he works his issues out with his family. He has an uphill battle to fight (no pun intended) as the history and evidence shows that this story fits the same script as any other domestic violence abuse case. Just switch out the spouses names, it’s the same old sad story.

I’ve attached a great article and really the only one, IMHO, worth reading in regards to Ray Rice’s week in the news. It’s a sobering perspective on Domestic Violence in America. To all those, especially those women, who have said “Why is it our business, she took him back…”, “The media ruined their lives…” I quote this article, “Of all the women murdered in 2010, nearly 40 percent were killed by a spouse or someone they were dating, according to the Bureau of Justice Statistics. This number has been 30 percent or higher since 1996.

“Get angry at what Ray Rice did and get angry at what Roger Goodell didn’t do, but please don’t be surprised by any of it. Not by the hit, not by the blatant attempts to make it look like it was the woman’s fault, not by Rice saying he would never do it again, not even by his wife taking him back. From the beginning, the Ray Rice saga has recapitulated everything awful about how domestic violence plays out in America. It has followed the script perfectly.”

Regardless of what a spouse says, it’s a crime and acting on charges should NOT be up to the spouse. Conflict of interest anyone?

Click here to read the article…

9/11 #NeverForget (to DONATE/Volunteer)!

InHonorofFlagI?m approaching September 11th a little different this year than in years passed. It goes without saying that today is about remembrance; remembering those who touched our lives on that frightful and fateful day, remembering family and friends who passed on and those who struggled to survive, and remembering those who put others before themselves and those who in the end gave the ultimate sacrifice to save others.

I also encourage everyone to remember to stay vigilant and alert and to know what that means. Today and everyday should be used as a reminder of what we as individuals can do to support our communities and those less fortunate than ourselves. A hero can be anyone. All heroes have one thing in common and it is creating a positive impact. May it be as drastic as laying down one?s life OR as simple as doing acts of kindness out of your own initiative without expecting or asking for any in return. Heroism starts with having the right motive and intention, and is followed through by a concrete action that is taken regardless of the outcome.

My goal by the end of the day today is to have recruited 5 HERO?s. Just to download the RedCross blood app, join #TeamEitel and schedule a donation! You can find the app for iOS and Android here ( With each whole blood donation you have the potential to save upwards of 3 lives. The easiest 8 minute act of heroism you?ll ever participate in.

I challenge you, I implore you! Donate as many times and as many different ways as you can per year! The need for blood was great on September 11th, the need for blood is great today. The need to make a difference hasn?t changed, just the environment in which we exist.

I just signed up for my first platelet donation scheduled next Monday in Timonium. I thought I knew a lot about donating blood until just today I learned that it could be beneficial for me to donate platelets too. If you are a platelet donor, you can still make regular whole blood or double red cell donations.? Both gifts are vitally important to patients with life threatening diseases.

Whole Blood Donation (All blood types, most common, 8-10 minutes, eligible every 56 days)

Double Red Cell Donation (Type O preferred, ~30 minutes, eligible every 112 days) (

Platelet Donation INFO (A+, B+, and AB blood types encouraged!, 1.5-2 hours, up to 24 times a year!) (

All of this information can be found at ( Educate yourself!

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